Reflections of a traveller

Bismillah In the name of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, the Most Merciful, the Most Loving Assalamu alaikum dear readers,  I hope you are doing great, busy with family, friends. Alhamdulillah this year has been quite a busy one for us. Can't believe how quickly time flies subhanallah! It feels like just the other day we started the new year. Now in couple of days,  Hijri 1435 will leave us forever. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala put baraka in our time! So what did we achieve this year? Have we had good time with family and friends for His sake? Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala blessed us with so much, have we thanked Him enough? Have we utilised His numerous blessings to please Him, to show our Love for Him, only Him? Alhamdulillah we have witnessed another amazing Ramadan and more recently the Ten great days of Dhul Hijjah. So many of us have left this world this year and here we are, the blessed ones, who are still given another chance to return to Him, alhamdulillah. ...

Bismillah...In the Name of Allah, The Most Loving, The Most Merciful  The primary need of men is to feel respected and the primary need of women is to feel loved. Women are great at loving unconditionally but what makes men really happy is respecting them. Sometimes lot of women think that until the men shows love, they won't show respect. But the less respect women have, the more unloving the men become. It is a 'crazy cycle'. It is perpetual. What we need for a healthy conjugal relation is to have unconditional love and unconditional respect. The fastest way to dry up a marriage is to disrespect a man. Part of respect is not to change him. Unconditional respect means to putting up with normal human qualities, not abusive qualities. Our faith teaches us that men are the protectors, the carers who must deal with mercy and justice. The more respectful you are towards your men, the more love you will get in return. Our beloved Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Sallam ...

You cannot enjoy something which you are dependent on. When we are starving emotionally , we are willing to put up with abusive relations. We will put up with anything. Because we are in a desperate situation. We won't survive without it. Ustadha gave us a good example. Imagine you haven't had food for few days and someone gives you a cheese cake. How would you eat it? Can you enjoy every bite of it or are you going to gobble it up as soon as possible because of hunger? Now imagine someone who just had a proper meal half an hour ago and you serve the cheesecake to her. She can enjoy the cheesecake , every bite of it as she is having it for pleasure not out of sheer hunger. Imagine giving a mouldy cheesecake to the very hungry person. Would he deny it? Of course not, because he is very hungry. What about the person who just had a proper meal? No doubt, she won't touch it.  It is very dangerous to be in a state of desperation as your choice become very limited. You are ...

Bismillah... In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful , the Most Giving, the Most Loving Alhamdulillah on Sunday 15th of November I went to the seminar done by Ustadha Yasmin Mogahed 'The greatest quest: Steps towards an everlasting marriage' in shaa Allah. I was really looking forward to her seminar. Couple of years ago, I started reading her writings. Alhamdulillah Couple of years ago, I went to her first talk in London at LMC organised by Al Buruj press, sponsored by Orphans in Need. Since then every year , I like to attend her events. Her book 'Reclaim your heart' is an excellent read mashAllah. I believe it is a must read mashAllah.  Alhamdulillah as usual, her talk was full of wisdom. I did take a lot of notes . What I need to do now during this week is to reflect, discuss and plan what areas I need to improve in shaa Allah. I have been discussing some of the issues she touched upon with my better half alhamdulillah . As it was a seminar about relation...